KEYNOTES: OVERCOMING CHALLENGES, "THE SAGES AND THEIR STORIES ABOUT MONEY"
HOW TO MANAGE MONEY AND RELATIONSHIPS
THE MONETARY CONTROL ISSUE DURING DIVORCE
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Divorce Without Financial Destruction
Divorce and Post-Divorce Planning Without Financial Stress
Dr. Robby Gordon, a financial planner, combines his in-depth knowledge
of money issues with proven stress management techniques which teach how
to deal with financial anxieties during divorce. Merging modern psychology
from the East and West, Dr. Gordon uses his analytical and psychological
skills to help divorcing couples:
- Create a workable division of property during divorce.
- Deal with monetary stress issues during divorce.
- Acquire practical techniques to deal with monetary stress.
- Create a future with a new attitude toward money and profits.
- Overcome challenges created by lack of money or assets.
- Learn how to break self-defeating barriers using specific creative tools to deal with financial stress.
Dr. Gordon assists his clients in taking control of their present
and future finances emphasizing education and planning during the process.
He helps create a fair division of property considering the consequences
of capital gains, cost of sale of houses and businesses, penalties of early
withdrawal of pensions, as well as division of pensions.
Creating a win-win situation involves several steps, including accepting the situation and detachment from the situation. Even if the result of acceptance does not match your ideal circumstances, acceptance and detachment will prevent you from fighting and exerting negative energy, and will free you to try to build a more peaceful dissolution.
Dr. Gordon teaches practical techniques for dealing with stress pre-, during, and post-divorce. He helps his clients to put money in the right perspective, not to use it as a control issue.
It takes much more energy to get divorced than to work on relationship; however, sometimes we know that there is no choice. At that point we need to try to put our energy into a productive way of resolving the situation and not to try to work out of fear creating a lot of negative energy using our money as a control issue.
Dr.Gordon works on visualization and gives specific creative tools to learn how to deal with financial stress. He works on the attitude toward money and helps create in your mind complete freedom from the stress associated with lack of money
Dr.Gordon teaches the tools to reduce stress, and how to achieve financial goals with breakthrough in mind. He teaches creative thinking that will get the individuals where they want to go.
He will introduce a new language that will help the two parties to distinguish between reality and their thoughts, which will help them to create what they want.
Once the parties learn how not to be stressed about their monetary situation,
they can be open to create something completely new--a new attitude that
will bring inner peace.
The parties feel empowered and focused, which brings the best out in
each person. It helps them to focus and have clarity about goals and missions.
The
Monetary Control Issue During Divorce
This
workshop is designed for psychologists, divorce lawyers, financial planners,
clergy, or anyone who deals with divorce issues. It's harder to get divorced
than it is to work on a relationship. But sometimes there's no choice.
At that point we need to try to put our energy into productive channels
to resolve the situation.
The opposite of love is fear, and that's what shows up first in a divorce.
The goal of this workshop is to create a fair and creative division of property in order to crate two independent households. Attendees will learn about capital gain consequences, the cost of sale of a house or business, and the penalties for early withdraw from a pension plan. Clients will learn to take control of their present and future financial planning during a period of emotional stress.
In order to create a win-win situation, you must have a paradigm shift in which we don’t think of one person winning and one person losing, but a complete win for both sides. This paradigm shift will show the other party that you are happy with your partner to the conflict getting what he or she wants. The old way was to show that you are upset and not happy with the outcome, and the other party will think that they have won. Actually what really happened is that you started convincing yourself that you were not happy with the agreement and started demanding more and more and making the conflict bigger rather than resolving it.
When you give in on a point in the conflict or you let go of certain requests that you had, do not do it with the expectation that the other party will do the same. If you do it with that expectation, the other party might feel that you are putting pressure on him or her. You have to let go without any expectation.
This does not mean that you have to compromise your integrity. If you feel that by letting the other party get what they want, then you will feel completely wiped out. Then and only then do not give in because in such a situation you need too much energy to live with yourself. However, this situation is usually rare, and a compromise will help you and will create a real win-win situation for both of you. Richard Carlson in his book said, “Do not sweat the small stuff.” Later on he continues and says actually “Everything is small stuff.” When you let the other party have the feeling that they are winning, they will be ready to go more than halfway toward you because they will want to keep their position of winning.
Ghandi once said that you can’t aspire for good and justice in one part
of your life and then have a different aspiration in another part of your
life. You can’t aspire to win in one situation and make the other
party lose, and not have other losses in your life.
For more information, please request information online or contact the Monetary Stress Institute
The Monetary Stress Institute
Dr. Robby Gordon
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Irvine, California 92612-2226
Tel: 949-733-0607 Fax: 949-733-1238
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